Since 2012, we have celebrated International Non-Binary People’s Day on July 14th, the halfway point between International Women’s Day and International Men’s Day.
The term “non-binary” does not have one definition but refers to individuals whose gender identity is neither female nor male. Other terms such as “gender non-conforming”, “genderqueer”, or “agender” are similar. Gender is a social construct that comes with a set of expectations, but there are many ways people can express their gender identity other than on a binary.
The Trevor Project, the leading suicide prevention and crisis intervention nonprofit organization for LGBTQ+ youth, developed this Guide to Being an Ally to Transgender and Nonbinary Young People as an educational resource for allies to learn how to respectfully support the Nonbinary and Transgender people in their lives. For a brief overview of this guide and to familiarize yourself with the common genders as well as tips and best practices on supporting the Trans and Nonbinary people in your life, take a look at our 2025 International Non-Binary People’s Day blog post. Taking the initiative to educating yourself relieves the burden of Trans and Nonbinary folks of having to repeatedly explain themselves to others.
Using the Correct Pronouns
This year, we will delve deeper into pronouns and the importance of using people’s correct pronouns. Egale Canada, Canada’s leading organization for 2SLGBTQI+ people and issues, has developed this helpful Pronouns Usage Guide as well as the shorter Pronouns Usage Quick Guide with helpful tips and instructions on pronoun usage.
Using the right pronouns is an easy way and small step you can take to show respect and decency to Non-binary and Transgender individuals. A harmful term that has been commonly used in the past that allies should avoid is to use the term “preferred pronouns”, as this implies these pronouns are just a preference and that alternatives are acceptable, when they are not. It’s also vital to not assume a person’s pronouns based on their appearance, and ask for pronouns whether someone’s gender expression is both expected or unexpected to you. Only asking those who’s appearance doesn’t fit in with your personal views of gender expression is a form of othering. Misgendering can be hurtful, exhausting, and humiliating for gender diverse people. Normalizing sharing your own pronouns (especially as a cisgender person) as well ask asking for others pronouns in everyday conversation lessens the likelihood of misgendering and further makes it part of the status quo.
Keep in mind that some people may use different pronouns in different settings. For example, if an individual is not out as Transgender with their family, they may use the pronouns associated with the gender they were assigned at birth. If you are worried about accidentally outing someone, be sure to check in with that person about their pronouns.
They/Them Pronouns
One argument commonly heard by those who struggle to use the correct nonbinary pronouns is that it is grammatically incorrect to use “they” as a pronoun for a singular person. They/them pronouns are commonly used by nonbinary people as they are a pre-existing and gender-neutral way to refer to a person. Page 4-5 of Egale’s Pronouns Usage Guide gives helpful examples on how to use singular they/them pronouns in a grammatically correct way.
What people may not always realize is that they often naturally use they/them to refer to a single person if the identity of that person is unknown.
For example: “Someone left their water bottle in the room.”
Because we don’t know who left the bottle, their pronouns are not automatically assumed.
Neopronouns
Neopronouns are personal pronouns some people use other than she, he, or they. While some are more common, some people create their own to express themselves and their gender. It can be more difficult to figure out the correct grammar of neopronouns as they are less common, and it is ok to ask what is correct and to be unsure of how to use them. Asking and learning is always appreciated from allies. Page 6 of Egale’s Pronouns Usage Guide defines neopronouns and has some examples of common neopronouns used.
Some examples of commonly used neopronouns include:
(Ze, Hir, Hirs, Hirself)
(Ey, Em, Eir, Eirs, Emself)
(Xe, Xem, Xyr, Xyrs, Xemself)
UBC Resources
The UBC Trans & Non-Binary Student Guide is a open, honest, and collaborative resource created by a team of Trans and Non-binary students at UBC to help students access resources and support on campus.
The UBC Pride Collective is an AMS resource that offers educational and social services dealing with sexual and gender diversity. It is a safe, supportive, and student-led home for the 2SLGBTQIA+ community at UBC.
Gears and Queers is an Engineering and STEM club at UBC that strives to support a community for queer and trans engineering students.
Community Resources:
The Trevor Project, an organization leading suicide prevention and crisis intervention for LGBTQ+ young people, offering crisis services, peer support, and education.
Trans Care BC, an organization specifically in British Columbia that connects trans people and their loved ones with information, education, and support.
Egale Canada is Canada’s leading organization for LGBTQIA+ people and issues through research, education, awareness, and advocacy for human rights and equity.
QMUNITY, British Columbia’s queer, trans, and two-spirit resource centre. This organization is based in Vancouver and works to provide safe spaces for 2SLGBTQIA+ people to express themselves, providing free counselling, information and referrals, and one-on-one peer support.
Out on the Shelves Library is a volunteer-run, community library that is committed to being a space to celebrate and strengthen queer culture through resources and programs.
Vancouver Public Library provides a list of resources as well as reading materials for further education about LGBTQIA+ experiences and communities.
UBC Library Materials:
To learn more, check out these reading materials available through the UBC Library:

Barker, M., Iantaffi, A., & ProQuest (Firm). (2019). Life isn’t binary: On being both, beyond, and in-between (1st ed.). Jessica Kingsley Publishers. [Available at UBC Library]
Barker, M., Scheele, J. (2019). Gender: A graphic guide. Icon Books. [Available at UBC Library]
Roche, J. (2019;2020;). Trans power: Own your gender (1st ed.). Jessica Kingsley Publishers. [Available at UBC Library]
Whitehead, J. & Abdou, A. (2023). Indigiqueerness: A conversation about storytelling. AU Press. [Available at UBC Library]
Young, E., & ProQuest (Firm). (2020;2019;). They/Them/Their: A guide to nonbinary and genderqueer identities (1st ed.). Jessica Kingsley Publishers. [Available at UBC Library]
Web Sources Consulted:
Egale Canada. (n.d.). Pronoun usage guide.
Egale Canada. Retrieved July 2, 2026, from
https://egale.ca/awareness/pronoun-usage-guide/
International Non-Binary People’s Day. (2025). In Wikipedia. https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=International_Non-Binary_People%27s_Day&oldid=1298031203
The Trevor Project. (2024). 2024 Guide to Being an Ally to Trans and Nonbinary Young People. The Trevor Project. https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/guide/a-guide-to-being-an-ally-to-transgender-and-nonbinary-youth/